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Anger Management
101
Commit to
Change and Manage Anger
If you are angry and you know it, raise your
hand
Anger is not all bad; it is how one expresses
it that spells the difference. Managing anger is important especially if one
has the tendency to lose control over situations big or small.
The following are basic tips and advice to help
you be comfortable with your anger, and being able to express it in a manner
that is not hurtful towards others or yourself.
Know what you are angry at
First things first, how would you get to manage
the anger that seems to broil deep down inside you when you have no clear idea
as to the situations, matters that trigger them in the first place?
It is important therefore that you identify any
attitudes that you have which predispose you to a host of reactions.
Do you not like it when the waiter takes about
ten minutes to give you your regular order? Or what would your reaction be if
the cashier in your local 7-11 store punches the wrong keys and you end up short
changed.
Do you vent? Do you rave? Do you feel you want
to punch someone or at least scream at their face?
Fortunately or unfortunately, you are not
alone. If it is these triggers that set you off, then you have at least made
that significant first step of becoming aware of your feelings and your
reactions.
Knowing and having identified what makes you
angry make it a lot easier to deal with when they erupt. You also could get to
see how your past reactions were in order to gauge or determine how your current
reaction would be, now that you know a bit better.
Past is past, let them go
Most of us carry a litany of conditioned
responses and go through life using those to deal with every blow that comes our
way. Usually, these responses were those left over from childhood.
Remember when you were crying and a grown-up
caregiver - your parents, aunts or relatives – told you it is bad to be angry?
And so you kept it all inside you until you grew up. As an adult, this then
gets manifested as denial and fear of truly expressing what you feel.
Being aware of such past conditioned behavior
actually frees you from its clutches. By bringing the feelings to the fore of
your attention, you then get to deal with them and eventually use them to not be
as impediments to your personal growth.
Anger needs to be acknowledged as it is there.
Anger that is suppressed is not healthy and if it is not appropriately dealt
with could lead to it exploding unnecessarily later on.
Respond not react
Believe it or not, you and you alone have the
ultimate choice on how to respond to a situation.
There are various ways to express your anger
besides the more traditional ways such as throwing a tantrum, throwing a chair,
or hailing invectives.
These non-traditional ways of expressing anger
are also legitimate, as long as the pathway towards expressing one’s emotions is
cleared.
Responding to our own feelings towards an
anger-provoking situation helps expose built-in and buried emotions that you may
have concealed from yourself. Observe how self-anger could lead to feeling
depressed or anxious.
The solution to this is managing our own
reaction to situations, not burying it with alcohol, drugs or any addiction
provoking habit.
Forgive and try to forget, if you can’t, then
just forgive for now
It is not easy to forget a deed that may have
caused a lot of anger inside you. If there are any wounds from an emotionally
charged relationship or interaction that you are still carrying and heavily
weighing you down, then why are you still carrying it?
There is a natural reaction to mope. Usually,
going through this stage helps in ultimately letting go of the resentment do.
Forgiving others usually starts from forgiving the self. Try this one for a
change.
All in all, anger is a difficult emotion to
deal with especially if you are exerting the effort to not deal with it.
Acknowledging you are angry and finding positive ways to deal with your feelings
are the steps to letting it go.
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Man hits woman on way to anger control class - Criminal weirdness ...
Justin John Boudin may have done his anger management homework, but he apparently didn't learn his lesson. The 27-year-old Minnesota man pleaded guilty to fifth-degree assault ...
No model behavior for Naomi Campbell - Gossip- msnbc.com
Naomi Campbell may want to get a refund on those anger-management courses.
Anger Management: Not Just For Celebrities - News- msnbc.com
A traffic jam on the way to work. The boss hassles you? again. You spill coffee on an important report. Little irritations can add up to big stress.
'Nerd' taunt drove Navy man to arson - Internet- msnbc.com
A Navy man who got mad when someone mocked him as a "nerd" over the Internet climbed into his car and drove 1,300 miles from Virginia to Texas to teach the other guy a lesson.
Democrats too angry to win White House? - Politics- msnbc.com
And to hear Republicans tell it, Clinton is just one of many Democrats with an anger management problem. Former Vice President Al Gore is angry.
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Deputy clerk agrees to parenting, anger management class - Murfreesboro Post
Deputy clerk agrees to parenting, anger management class
Murfreesboro Post, TN - Nov 18, 2008
An aggravated domestic assault charge against a deputy court clerk was retired Tuesday after she agreed to attend parenting and anger management classes. ...
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Taming tempers
Silver Chips Online, MD - Nov 18, 2008
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... data management, and integrated control. "This broad array of solutions meshes well with the needs of this growing economy," said Anger. ...
City Councilman hopes anger management will fix his reputation - OCRegister
City Councilman hopes anger management will fix his reputation
OCRegister, CA - Nov 6, 2008
I'm here for anger management. But what happened to me? I wasn't angry." MacLean, 50, may be Orange County's only unemployed city councilman. ...
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Chronic illness can result in anger (UPI)
NEW YORK, Nov. 19 (UPI) -- People diagnosed with chronic illness face worries about treatment, but also feelings of unfairness and fear, which can turn into anger, a U.S. expert says.
Councilwoman criticized for Catholic remarks (The State)
HILTON HEAD ISLAND -- Several Beaufort County residents and officials expressed surprise and anger Tuesday after County Councilwoman Laura Von Harten criticized the Roman Catholic Church?s stance on women and reproductive rights during a rezoning discussion Monday. Von Harten brought up church positions that don?t allow women to become priests and on ?uterus rights? while the Land Management ...
Remarks about church provoke criticism (The State)
Several Beaufort County residents and officials expressed surprise and anger Tuesday after County Councilwoman Laura Von Harten criticized the Roman Catholic Church?s stance on women and reproductive rights during a rezoning discussion Monday. Von Harten brought up church positions that don?t allow women to become priests and on ?uterus rights? while the Land Management Committee debated whether ...
Report: Titans RB White placed on probation (WWTI Watertown)
Tennessee Titans running back LenDale White has reportedly been placed on probation after pleading guilty to disturbing the peace in a March incident in Denver. The Tennessean reported Tuesday that White will need to attend an anger management class, though the case will be thrown out if White avoids unlawful situations for the next year. The newspaper cited a judicial assistant in Denver's ...
Religion news in brief (AP via Yahoo! News)
The World Council of Churches will help deliver Christmas messages and prayers of peace to the biblical birthplace of Jesus.
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