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Overcoming Shyness
Are Certain People Born To Be Shy
Why am I shy? – Are Certain People Born to Be Shy?
Yes. Sounds strange? Read on and we’ll explain.
At some time in your life, have you ever said
“I have butterflies in my stomach?” Maybe you haven’t because you don’t use that
idiom but for sure you have already experienced being shy. You probably felt shy
during an unfamiliar situation and you felt annoying and embarrassing symptoms
of shyness like avoiding eye contact, sweaty palms, racing heart, blushing,
sweating bullets or having awkward thoughts. Being shy is indeed one of the
feelings that you do not want to constantly feel.
Shyness is normal and it is not considered as a
mental problem. All people have been shy at one time or another. Even the most
confident people experienced being shy so there is nothing to worry about if you
feel shy. Studies show that around 20 percent of people in the whole word are
proven to be shy. And this number continues to increase. So if you’re feeling
shy, don’t fret because you are not alone.
However, if your shyness has become too much to
handle and it is affecting your life already especially having normal
interaction with people, then maybe it is time to assess yourself because maybe
there really is something wrong. As we discussed, too much shyness can lead to
social phobia, which is a mental problem that needs to be handled by expert
doctors or psychologists.
You probably are wondering why you are shy. It
may be because of the environment you were use to or the way you were brought
up. Certain events or incidents in the past may also contribute to the reason
why you are shy now.
But in most cases, shyness proves to be
hereditary.
Many studies conducted have proven that genetics
is one major factor that contributes to shyness. This also applies to animals.
Dogs and horses that have shy parents are also most likely to become shy and may
be more difficult to be trained. Most shy people have shy parents and relatives
and it is not surprising to find out that they too have become shy persons.
Being shy can be a problem if not handled well.
One of the negative sides of being shy is having the tendency to be passive.
Most of the time shy people can’t stand up for themselves and what they believe
is right, thus they just sit in a corner and let everything happen even if
against their will.
Shy people also have certain insecurities that
are not justifiable because they are actually good at doing what they do, it’s
just that they are too shy and do not have the confidence to let themselves
shine and show other people what they can do.
Having normal interactions around people is
another negative effect of shyness. The social life of shy people is greatly
affected because of their shyness. They have a tendency to avoid crowds and
withdraw themselves from groups and social interactions. This not only
negatively impacts their social life but work, family and other aspects of their
life as well.
While shyness has negative aspects, it also has
a positive side. Shy people are naturally good observers and do not get
themselves into too much trouble because they try to observe and assess their
environment or any situation before making some actions. They are not impulsive
and think twice before making any decisions.
Shy people also make great friends. Because they
have difficulty in the social scene and making friends seems to be quite a task,
they value their friends wholeheartedly and will try hard to nurture and
maintain that relationship. They have proven to be loyal and thoughtful friends.
Although shyness is hereditary, it can be
improved over time. Some shy people born with shy parents have successfully
battled being shy because of constant self-improvement, developing their
self-esteem and trying to be exposed to new environments.
Just because you are born with it doesn’t mean
you have to stick with it. If you are a shy person and inherited this trait from
your parents, you don’t have to bear with it for life.
Do something about it.
Become involved in activities that will make you
interact with other people. Being shy initially is normal but as time goes by
try to be at ease with the new people that you meet and be outgoing as much as
possible.
Assess yourself and figure out your positive
aspects. Show other people what area you are good at and you can offer them help
if they want it. This will not only improve your social interactions with them
but it will increase your self-confidence because you are good at something and
people are appreciating and noticing that.
Relax, be confident and don’t be shy.
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